I am so frustrated, I need to write. As many of you know, we are having a baby here in the next 3 months. I get that. YES, I know that its going to be hard. YES, I know that I will not get any sleep. YES, I know its going to be crazy. YES, I know its worth it.
I know ALL of that, but would you please stop saying things like "You have no idea" or the infamous "Just wait and see". I mean come on. Seriously, have you not seen some of the parents out there?? Some of the train wrecks? If they can do it, why can't I?
I am soooooo tired of hearing all of your excuses for not being able to go outside or not being able to go to the bathroom. What really makes it worse is that even if you were right, do you think I would tell you anyway in order to validate your position? People are having babies in this world every couple of minutes. Most of them born to parents with no education, financial or family support. Those kids manage to make it thru life don't they?
I have ran into parents that tell me I will be just fine. I have had parents say some of the most reduculous things I have ever heard of as well. Things such as "are you going to get rid of your dogs now?". I mean what the hell kind of person kicks the dog out because they are now parents? PULL yourself together and act like a grown up. You do what you gotta do in order to survive.
Maybe that is what is wrong with generation X? They just don't know what hard work is? Maybe doing more than one thing at a time is just too much? My mother raised us 3 on one persons salary and we all turned out just fine. With Taunya's half marathons and my Ironman, don't we get a break? That's unless you all think that those are easy feats that you can just go do them after a hard night of drinking? Maybe the difference here is that we both have a better idea of what hard work really means and you all don't? I would certainly have to think that is a possibility right?
What is so funny is that I rarely how much fun it is from people about being parents. All I hear is the negative. I have heard a handful of times that it is worth it, you will enjoy it or they grow up so fast. Where is the upside in this? Why are we having kids? What are we doing? Was it a bad decision? Are we going to regret it?
Thanks everyone for being so positive and making us feel so great about this life altering decision we made about a year ago.
4 comments:
You and Taunya are going to be great parents. We are so excited for all of you and from one that has just had number 4, I can tell you honestly that it is worth it times 100. Nothing compares to their first smiles that only you glimpse or when their little fingers curl around yours and the very first time you see them your heart melts and you fall in love with this precious little baby and know that you would do anything for them.
Just read this post and I too can vouch for the pros of parenting. Don't listen to the people around you telling you negative stuff. Sure there will be hard days, but they are far outweighed by the FUN of being a parent. Phil and I waited for 6 1/2 years to have Drew and that was a lot of time to get pretty involved in ourselves. Do I miss the old life? Sometimes. But would I go back? Never. Everyday something new happens with Drew and makes my life more complete and fun than I could ever imagine. You will love being a dad and Taunya will love being a mom. The dogs will be great siblings and all will be well. Life will continue. Your heart and your life will grow bigger to accomodate this new amazing little person. I don't know how it happens, but it does and being a parent seriously rocks.
Thanks for the words. I have met some mixed results with my post. Some tell me that I cannot talk about the topic because I have never been a parent. Others tell me how they would not have it any other way as you have indicated. I am finding that those who respond about the postive parts are people that I know pretty well and can appreciate my point. Interesting. I do not regret the post and I it is just how I feel. Nothing wrong with expressing yourself. Thanks for taking the time to read my posts and the somewhat "hot" topics. Its nice to hear what people are thinking.
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